Some Truth About Detachment.

Something that is a spiritual truth is that even the most incredible tools and practices have a shadow side in the wrong hands or our lower nature. They can be used poorly and let’s admit here, most of us have been there on our journey. It’s our human tendency to want to feel holy then use it as a deflection or something to hide behind with others when challenged. Sometimes the more holy we think we are, the more at the mercy of our shadow we can be. Nothing wrong with that if we are honest and open to moving to the right use and intention. 

Detachment is one such practice. Detachment can become an excuse for arrogance, indignation, withdrawing love and having no self-responsibility. In our human effort to run from pain, we can hide behind detachment rather than deal appropriately with a situation or person. 

Detachment never means withdrawing love! What it does mean is:

• You have chosen not to be impacted or infected by what’s going on. 
• Not getting hooked in – physically, emotionally, mentally. 
• Holding space for the right understanding and outcome.
• Choosing what is self-loving and best for all in the moment
• Open to love through holding an open mind and heart, holding compassion. 

I’ve encountered many arrogant yogis out there. It’s not limited to yogi’s, but that’s been my world. If we are remaining warm and humble, we know we’re moving along well. If we have become a robot, caught in our heads, a cold spiritual scientist then somethings amiss. Let’s add there argumentative, defensive and ‘right’. 

A similar good word is 'dispassion'. In spiritual terms dispassion is an excellent thing, it's not cold. I like to take this to mean not getting gripped by the lure of a passionate story or drama or thought. Keeping your centre, allowing what wants to crash to crash and it not pulling you with it. Passion is a buzz word now, but too much passion is as harmful as no passion. We can be passionate and neutral!

Detachment is a great practice. It takes a lot of practice too. To me, as you now, the ultimate is to be able to keep our heart open no matter what, and not let life make us hard or cold or lonely. No matter how messy that may be in the process, it’s well worthwhile for an authentic and happy life. 

If you would love some support to learn how to remain detached yet loving and available then reach out – info@sallythurley.com. We all need it at times. It’s smart to want to master great spiritual practices and to learn to live a rich, soulful life.

Business Intuition Formula

As spiritual beings living out our life business purpose and karmas, it’s important to remember we can and need to do things differently.  As we use our spiritual practice and business venture to reach the same outcome – healing, peace, going home, we remember the golden rule – spirit first, world second.  

Spirit is the boss remember? We are already wise to the fact that it’s not us doing, anything.  We know our first job is to keep in the flow, in the Tao, in relationship with Grace.  No matter what it takes.  At times we need a reminder, as I found this week.  I saw my calendar for the next three months and went into a stupor.  It’s busy.  Really busy.  

 

I thought I was scaling back after the first hectic six months of this year, but things have already started exploding in the directions their going.  So much so that I found I hit overwhelm, I couldn’t even see my way through the woods at that moment.  From years of intention, commitment and making a healthy number of mistakes I know that when we’re open, we know to catch that stress moment and get off it.  We know a solution always comes.  For me it was accompanied by this simple, cute rule:

Grace + Awareness = Cosmic Downloads (i.e. the way out)

Grace – the potent mystical stuff of all there is.  Consciousness itself.  Spirit.  Pure love.  

Awareness – our relationship to it, how we know and recognise who we are which is all of the above.  

Bring them together – Being still! Profoundly still and connected to your witness Self, the I AM part of you.  Open your mind and heart.  Do what it is you do to expand your spiritual energy and awareness.  

Once open, it doesn’t take long.  Lop a question into that space.  If the question hasn’t already presented itself, see how quickly your intuition picks the response up.  

Naturally the longer you’ve been at this kind of thing, the easier it will be.  The only time you question what comes up is if you haven’t learned yet what pure witness state feels like.  If we still have some strong desire from lack of awareness, it will interfere and point us unwittingly in another direction.  

Your homework:

Keep meditating.  Keep seeing what methods work best to get your so present that nothing else is running behind, nothing else matters.  Invite Grace in, open to her; she’s never not there to help.  Even if it’s not as obvious as you would like, the next step will be revealed, and it’s your inner compass pointing to the way out.  The way out of stuck, overwhelm and stress.  

Want to have that experience? To know more? Want to sit with me and experience what this level of connection and witness consciousness is like? Are you ready enough to get it? I’ll sit with you.  Simply email me at info@sallythurley.com and put in the title – LET'S GET PRESENT. 

Much love x

The She-Monk, Who is She?

She is supremely herself. 
She is eternally free. 
Nothing or no-one owns, dictates to or controls her. 
She has the wisdom of a monk, the devotional heart of a Gopi. 
She is a modern mystic. 
Her boss is the cosmos, and her purpose is to simply be love, truth and consciousness. 
She understands what is healing. 
She knows what is real abundance. 
She is kind, humble and the fullest expression of herself. 
She is both non-dual and dual. 
She knows it is all one. 
She loves and honours the richness of the spiritual traditions and moves freely between them. 
She doesn’t need to leave her life and live in a cave to know God. 
She is committed to knowing who she is. 
She is full of nectar, flowing, discerning. 
She is the full spectrum of creation – both light and dark.
She embraces all. 
She always moves to a divine perspective. 
She lives in the eternal moment. 
She takes her experience of God as her vision of the world, a divine play of consciousness. 
 She dances to the beat of creation, Spanda. 
She is ok being a human – to laugh, to cry, to dance and to feel pain. 
She chooses who she spends her time with and who she shares her life with.
She keeps her heart open. 
She’s colourful. 
She doesn’t need to be all things to all people. 
She simply follows what is expansive. 
She knows Grace is mystical and powerful. 
She knows there are magic and miracles; life is not dry and rational. 
She knows within her is the goddess, empress, priestess, warrior and doesn’t care for she’s happy being her. 
 She is powerful because of her being, by not needing to be powerful or fierce or in control. 
She is a modern Rishi. 
She knows when to surrender, when to be determined and when to use tough love. 
She relishes the journey and surrenders to the outcome. 
She allows herself to be open. 
She doesn’t have to be anything. 
She is a master of herself. 
She is God’s agent. 
She has used her daily worldly life to transform and experience God. 
She enjoys the building of grace, peace, resilience and love through spiritual practice. 
Her home is her temple. 
Her heart is her doorway to the divine.
She is holding the space for an enlightened, peaceful society. 
She is in all of us. 
 -Sally Lakshmi Thurley x

Be On the Edge

Stand on the edge my Darling. 
Stand and breathe. 
Feel the uncertainty. 
There is nothing here. No tomorrow. No noise. No memory, only here. Presence. Now. 
Let the ground crumble away from under you, 
let yourself feel vulnerable, raw, real. The most real you'll ever get. 
Now you are living. 
There's no sun?
You're looking outside. 
Wanting too much for evidence, to validate you, to show success. 
Stay here, on the edge. 
The light is inside. 
It doesn't care what you think you want, where you think you are going. 
Stand on the edge and let it all be. Let there be failure, let there be success. Let it all fall. Let it all grow. 
Let yourself blossom from the inside. 
Laugh and dance at the uncertainty of it all. 
There is nowhere but here, nowhere to go, but to be on the edge, my Darling. x

-Sally Lakshmi Thurley

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We don't have to renounce life to be free.

No matter what spiritual background we come from, there comes the point where all that matters is that once we discover our spiritual nature, we find a way to become seriously anchored in it - realise our Self in presence, and take that vision, that attitude to the world.  That’s it.  Nothing else matters.  To get to the eternal moment or pure presence, we go inward, within, while radically present.  Everything we want is waiting inside there, and the most important practice ever to become anchored in grace is meditation. Everything we want is there, out the other side of our beliefs, concepts, striving, etc. 

But how do we do that? We get told a lot of lovely stories and ideas but who tells us really how to do it and who takes the time to do it?  For thousands of years, we have been in an age and dimension where serious ‘tapasya’ was needed to cross the threshold to the God experience.  It got to the point where renunciation became necessary and all the rage but the problem there, is that we missed another valuable way that presented itself.  

We became so conditioned to letting go, removing identity, ego, belongings, titles, money, ambition as monks, nuns and what have you that we are still carrying centuries of beliefs in our psyche regarding what is spiritual and how to know God or consciousness.  We seem to fight for our right these days to have all our hearts desires.  There are many new age teachings to help us there, but let’s face it, they are so focused on desire that they keep us in a loop of desire and further from what it is we really want – union. They have strayed too far from this. 

We don’t need to fight.  We don’t need to be excessive either nor vulgar which is what puts so many off the modern spirituality and money issue.  There are elegant alternatives.  There is a certain amount of surrender and renunciation that will always be relevant – like attachment and free will.  The way we missed that I mentioned before was a very mystical and clever yoga for the ‘householder’.  

This was the tradition I studied in for many years.  It says that rather than remove ourselves from life and become still and return home, use life as the means and practice with your spiritual practice to become still in the midst of it all and return home.  To be anchored in the Self in grace, however, we still do almost same work, it’s just the application is different and the result – you could be a monk or an entrepreneur for example.  Or a She-Monk in my world. Awesome hey?

At the end of the day, the only way we will find peace, equanimity, compassion, love, stillness and wisdom will be when we commit to doing the work. We must do it with the kind of dedication a monk would have, and we bring everything into one point of now, of integration and go beyond the crap. Every journey we go on can be one home.  Love, career, family, health, you name it.  

This all sounds nice, it’s fascinating I know, it’s my favourite thing! But who’s going to go that extra mile? Who is willing to be humble and throw themselves on the fire of spiritual transformation?  I see people come through my workshops and I can tell they are thinking ‘that’s easy, I do that’ when it’s clear they don’t/won't. Not in the way that’s needed. And it is that easy, what I give you in the workshop, what the essentials are.  Too easy in fact.  But I have not met anyone yet who takes it on, who does get present to the movement of consciousness, who asks who they are in every moment, who follows breath to one-pointedness daily.  The result is bliss.  The result is union.  The result is you can’t even speak about it.  Who’s that hungry? You?

Then there’s the question, what are those beautiful practices that create serenity, joy, peace, wisdom, love like the Dalai Lama, Amma? And what works best for me?  What will take me across the river of doubt, fear, darkness to home? In this life for me, nothing else mattered. Who doesn’t want to have a strong ‘asana’ or seat in God consciousness? It’s ok, I know I’m a little different.  I always have been.  I was only a young girl when I’d decided that’s all I wanted. Plus a pony, of course.  

If you are ready, really ready and you want it all straight up without having to go away to the Himalayas, weed gardens in a monastery or spend years understanding Sanskrit, then I’m happy to take you away with me.  A small group for five days, into the bush and give you that seat, that anchor.  What you do with it is up to you, but you will have the road map home. Something that’s worked for many centuries and is as relevant and magnificent today as it was back then.  Why the Bush? Because there’s nowhere more spiritual than the Aussie bush and there’s also no better time than deep in the belly of winter to go within, with nourishing meals and pot belly stoves.  Heaven! 

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But you have to be ready. Have to be hungry and have to have a beginner’s mind because this isn’t a spa retreat and it isn’t fluffy and woo-woo, and it will totally break your brain.  That’s why you will need five days! You won’t get the transformation or transmission in less time than that, and I don’t have the nature to want to give you a Band-Aid.  You want to go home, and I want you to go there too.  

If this is just what you have wanted, then I’m taking applications now for June 18th, 2017.  You can have a look here >> http://www.sallythurley.com/retreat/ and feel free to respond, leave a comment, email me on info@sallythurley.com. 

Love and live Gracefully, 

Sally xo